Myth-Busting Domestic Violence

Separating fact from fiction to better understand and address domestic violence.

Common Myths and Facts

Myth 1: Domestic violence only happens in poor or marginalized communities.

Fact: Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic statuses, races, religions, genders, and sexual orientations. It is a pervasive issue that transcends boundaries, though societal stigma may prevent victims in higher-income or privileged communities from coming forward.

Myth 2: If the abuse were that bad, the victim would leave.

Fact: Leaving an abusive relationship is far more complex than it seems. Barriers like financial dependency, fear of retaliation, lack of support, or concerns for children’s safety often trap victims. On average, it takes a victim seven attempts before successfully leaving an abusive relationship.

Myth 3: Alcohol or drug abuse causes domestic violence.

Fact: While substance abuse can exacerbate violent behavior, it is not the root cause of domestic violence. Abuse is about power and control, and many abusers are violent regardless of substance use. Addressing substance abuse alone will not eliminate abusive behaviors.

Myth 4: Men can’t be victims of domestic violence.

Fact: Men can and do experience domestic violence. According to studies, 1 in 7 men in the U.S. has been a victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner. Societal stigma often prevents male survivors from seeking help, but resources are available for all genders.

Myth 5: Children are not affected if they don’t witness the violence.

Fact: Even if children do not directly witness abuse, they often feel its impact. Living in an abusive environment can lead to emotional, psychological, and developmental challenges. Breaking the cycle of abuse is crucial to ensure children grow up in safe, supportive homes.

How Myths Perpetuate Abuse

Believing myths about domestic violence allows abuse to continue unchecked. These misconceptions can prevent victims from seeking help, enable abusers to justify their actions, and discourage bystanders from intervening. Dispelling myths is a critical step in fostering understanding and supporting survivors.

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